I believe one of the most difficult things parents with multiple children face when they are young is life in general. I believe life itself is difficult with two. Anyone can argue with me but it all actuality it is harder with two. Every day I wake up wondering what today is going to be like, is my head going to spin? Or will today be relaxing? I ask myself this every day before I get up out of my bed. It’s not easy sacrificing everything and having to put your two children, not just one but two, before yourself. It’s not easy at all. Every day I wake up I have to deal with them plus go to work and find time for school work. Every day I give them two of everything plus work forty hours a week and make a commitment to school. Every day I feel tired and feel like I just can’t do it anymore but I have to look at the purpose of why I am doing this.
It’s not easy having a job, being a parent and a student at the same time. It’s like you have to play three different roles, a mom, student and employee at the same time. It’s hard to juggle things such as this but in the end it’s worth it if you’re doing it all at the same time. I believe in the long run it will benefit my life as well as my children’s. Every parent wants to give their child the world but as we all know in today’s economy, if you’re not born into wealth, it’s hard to do that. I find it easier if I set myself a schedule every day, something like a routine. There’s so many things I’d like to accomplish in one day but just can’t. Even though I am in a relationship with their father and we live together I feel at times I do all the work since I have two girls. I think to myself maybe if I had boys he’d help a little more. My point of this blog is to let you all into my world and feel for what I am going through.
I was fresh out of High School and all I wanted to do was party. I had no cares in the world, it was all about me. I was able to spend all my money on myself and since I lived with my mother I didn’t have any bills but a phone, my father paid for my vehicle at the time. Life was so easy than. I was able to go shopping every day, have a great social life and do whatever I wanted. All that partying led me to meet my daughter’s dad. When we first met neither one of us wanted a relationship, just to have someone to spend time with. We met in August of 2006, the year I graduated high school. We dated on and off up until October of 2007. After that I was too into myself and he was the same exact way. He was also from Pittsburgh and I lived in Greensburg at the time. I always went out in Pittsburgh so it was convenient for us to spend time with each other. We went our separate ways thinking we would never see each other again. I started working at St. Anne’s in Greensburg around May of 2008, that’s when I realized my parents aren’t going to support me forever. I finally got a job and was making good money. I became a Certified Nurse Aide and loved every minute of it. I was doing well as far as paying my own way; I bought myself a brand new car at the beginning of 2009. I was out with a girlfriend one night on the South Side of Pittsburgh and on my way home I ran into my daughter’s dad, at this time we had no children together. We talked for a little and exchanged numbers. We started seeing each other and at this point in time I had moved to Penn Trafford with my mother. We knew from the start of that day that we wanted to be together. I found out that year on Mother’s Day that I was pregnant with my first daughter, Aniyla. I thought it would make us closer but really it made matters hard to deal with. We weren’t really serious until Aniyla was born. I think him seeing her made him realize that he wanted a family. After she was born we decided to live together and things were rough at first, we stayed with my mother until we got things financially straight. Neither one of us was prepared for a child. My mother knew about him and me but my father didn’t. My dad wasn’t exactly fond of interracial dating at the time until he saw my daughter. He fell in love with her and it changed his views totally. Everything was going great, I recovered from the preeclampsia I had and finally went back to work and got my life back together. Then, at the end of April of 2010 I found out I was pregnant again. The birth control pills failed obviously. I was a total mess, normally a baby coming is supposed to be a happy moment but I was scared out of my life how I was going to be able to have the strength to take care of another child. I wanted to finish school and get back to my normal life. I always had second thoughts the whole way through my pregnancy until I saw Ariyanna in December of 2010. I knew I made the right decision and I wouldn’t trade her for the world.
My point of sharing this story with you is to let you all know no matter how young and irresponsible you are, having children makes about almost everyone mature. I also wanted to relate my story to show you all that I did struggle and still am today but I have to make the best of my life in order for my children to be happy. I get overwhelmed at times and just want to give up. It is so hard having two to chase, two to feed, two to bath, etc. But no matter how hard it is I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I wanted this blog to be an inspiration to all the young mothers who believe they can’t have two children so young. I feel as though there are young mothers who have one child and then have another back to back, whether planned or unplanned. It will definitely be a challenge but in the end it’s worth it. I wanted to give the young mothers who are going through what I am going through some inspiration and hope. I hope some of my readers can relate to this as well. All you have to do is believe in yourself, whether you have support or you don’t in the end it doesn’t matter. Your children will love you for you and when they grow older they will understand.
By: Alison Pawlikowsky
Extra Credit Blog Post 1
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It’s not easy having a job, being a parent and a student at the same time. It’s like you have to play three different roles, a mom, student and employee at the same time. It’s hard to juggle things such as this but in the end it’s worth it if you’re doing it all at the same time. I believe in the long run it will benefit my life as well as my children’s. Every parent wants to give their child the world but as we all know in today’s economy, if you’re not born into wealth, it’s hard to do that. I find it easier if I set myself a schedule every day, something like a routine. There’s so many things I’d like to accomplish in one day but just can’t. Even though I am in a relationship with their father and we live together I feel at times I do all the work since I have two girls. I think to myself maybe if I had boys he’d help a little more. My point of this blog is to let you all into my world and feel for what I am going through.
I was fresh out of High School and all I wanted to do was party. I had no cares in the world, it was all about me. I was able to spend all my money on myself and since I lived with my mother I didn’t have any bills but a phone, my father paid for my vehicle at the time. Life was so easy than. I was able to go shopping every day, have a great social life and do whatever I wanted. All that partying led me to meet my daughter’s dad. When we first met neither one of us wanted a relationship, just to have someone to spend time with. We met in August of 2006, the year I graduated high school. We dated on and off up until October of 2007. After that I was too into myself and he was the same exact way. He was also from Pittsburgh and I lived in Greensburg at the time. I always went out in Pittsburgh so it was convenient for us to spend time with each other. We went our separate ways thinking we would never see each other again. I started working at St. Anne’s in Greensburg around May of 2008, that’s when I realized my parents aren’t going to support me forever. I finally got a job and was making good money. I became a Certified Nurse Aide and loved every minute of it. I was doing well as far as paying my own way; I bought myself a brand new car at the beginning of 2009. I was out with a girlfriend one night on the South Side of Pittsburgh and on my way home I ran into my daughter’s dad, at this time we had no children together. We talked for a little and exchanged numbers. We started seeing each other and at this point in time I had moved to Penn Trafford with my mother. We knew from the start of that day that we wanted to be together. I found out that year on Mother’s Day that I was pregnant with my first daughter, Aniyla. I thought it would make us closer but really it made matters hard to deal with. We weren’t really serious until Aniyla was born. I think him seeing her made him realize that he wanted a family. After she was born we decided to live together and things were rough at first, we stayed with my mother until we got things financially straight. Neither one of us was prepared for a child. My mother knew about him and me but my father didn’t. My dad wasn’t exactly fond of interracial dating at the time until he saw my daughter. He fell in love with her and it changed his views totally. Everything was going great, I recovered from the preeclampsia I had and finally went back to work and got my life back together. Then, at the end of April of 2010 I found out I was pregnant again. The birth control pills failed obviously. I was a total mess, normally a baby coming is supposed to be a happy moment but I was scared out of my life how I was going to be able to have the strength to take care of another child. I wanted to finish school and get back to my normal life. I always had second thoughts the whole way through my pregnancy until I saw Ariyanna in December of 2010. I knew I made the right decision and I wouldn’t trade her for the world.
My point of sharing this story with you is to let you all know no matter how young and irresponsible you are, having children makes about almost everyone mature. I also wanted to relate my story to show you all that I did struggle and still am today but I have to make the best of my life in order for my children to be happy. I get overwhelmed at times and just want to give up. It is so hard having two to chase, two to feed, two to bath, etc. But no matter how hard it is I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I wanted this blog to be an inspiration to all the young mothers who believe they can’t have two children so young. I feel as though there are young mothers who have one child and then have another back to back, whether planned or unplanned. It will definitely be a challenge but in the end it’s worth it. I wanted to give the young mothers who are going through what I am going through some inspiration and hope. I hope some of my readers can relate to this as well. All you have to do is believe in yourself, whether you have support or you don’t in the end it doesn’t matter. Your children will love you for you and when they grow older they will understand.
By: Alison Pawlikowsky
Extra Credit Blog Post 1
I especially like how you pointed out becoming a parent makes most people become mature. It's not really a choice you just either step up to the plate or you don't. I like the way you let us readers into your life some to get the point across. Great job!!
ReplyDeleteAw thanks, I wanted everyone who has one child and is planning or doesn't plan another baby to know exactly how hard it is and the sacrifices you have to make even with just one child. I also wanted people to have something to think about when they think they are in a touch situation, there's always someone out there who has it worse. I hope everyone understands the meaning. It's always nice to know other people are dealing with the same thing too if there is any readers who are experiencing my same situation. Thanks !
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Having a sick baby is the worst. My first son was born with phenomena on his right lung. He had to live in an incubator for about a week until the infection cleared. He was not able to come home with me after my three day stay in the hospital. Although I spent every day at the hospital with him after my discharge, it was heart breaking to not be able to take him home at first. Thank you for sharing. I enjoyed your story.
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ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading you post. I like how you told the story of how your family came together and that it changed everything for you. I think sometimes people who say they want to have kids don't realize the sacrafices they will have to make. Nice job.
Samantha
Alison, just wanted to post that again you have shared something so personal that we can't help but appreciate its honesty. That type of writing just seems to be who you are. As we discussed earlier in the class, it's best to consider what the strengths and weaknesses are with that being "your thing." How can you embrace the strengths and improve the weaknesses? I think that's something to think about when any writer discovers his or her preferred style of writing. Thanks, as always, for sharing.
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